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How Watching ‘The Fault in our Stars’ with my Teenage Daughter Brought us Closer

June 24, 2014 By Thelma 2 Comments

Woodley/Elgort nuzzle

Woodley/Elgort nuzzle

The shrill screams of excited teen girls. That was the first thing my daughter and I noticed as we approached Manhattan’s Ziegfeld Theater for last week’s premiere of The Fault in Our Stars. Their shrieks rolled down the street in tidal waves, as hundreds of Stars lovers celebrated the arrival of a movie they’d been awaiting for more than two years.

“I know I’m one of them,” my 14-year-old, Lizzie, whispered to me, “but, honestly, all these fangirls are making me cringe.” We’d both read the book, and like millions of others (many of whom rushed to theaters this weekend, making the film an instant hit), we’d both fallen for the story of two teenagers with cancer, Hazel (Shailene Woodley) and Augustus (Ansel Elgort), who forge a connection despite their illnesses. As a mercifully healthy high-school freshman, my daughter may have been free of the teens’ life-and-death worries, but she could relate to their bantering friendship, awkward flirtation — and need to separate from their parents. As we had prepared to leave for the event, she did her blasé-teen best to pretend that slipping into my black wedges and heading to the city for a big movie premiere was just another night at the movies. But her façade didn’t last. Entering the theater we passed Woodley, looking every bit a star in a pollen-yellow strapless gown. “I’m cool outside,” Lizzie murmured, “but inside, I’m jumping up and down.”

Before it was a hit movie, The Fault in Our Stars — like The Hunger Games, Twilight, and Divergent — was a bestselling young adult novel. It was my daughter’s discovery first, and she shared it with me. But unlike those other action-oriented books, TFIOS was not a fantasy, or a dystopia, or something that happened far, far away among immortals and teen gladiators – unless you happened to consider suburban Indianapolis exotic.

And the primary battle waged in TFIOS is against cancer – at least on the surface. Because the story of lung-damaged Hazel, lugging around her oxygen tank, and her gradual romantic awakening to one-legged Augustus was really so much more about love than disease. As Lizzie explained as the lights dimmed: “They’re all dying – and that makes them seem more alive.”
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Filed Under: Books, Movies & TV Tagged With: Ansel Elgort, Daughter, John Green, mother, Shailene Woodley, The Fault in our Stars

Playdate Excerpt: Dad & Daughter discuss plugs and outlets

February 15, 2011 By Thelma Leave a Comment

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Three pages into Playdate, ten-year-old Belle walks in on father Lance and mother Darlene making love. OK, she’s freaked out. As he drives her to school that same morning, Lance tries to discuss what she may or may not have seen.

WHEN Lance and Belle climbed into the van, he slid his coffee mug into one cup-holder; she slotted her chocolate-milk box in the other. He fumbled for his Wayfarers; she pulled them off his head and handed them over. “Buffalo Springfield or Hannah Montana?” she asked, fingering the CD’s.

“How about a compromise:  Judy Collins?”

“Too depressing,” Belle said.

“Dusty Springfield?”

“Cool.”

Lance pulled out of the driveway, passing their neighbors, the Montoya Mediterranean Revival mini-mansion and the scarred earth of the building sites to the right, the new homes with their glowing white driveways, the industrial greenhouses that emitted a pasty sweet jonquil smell.

“So, if Mom wasn’t choking you, what exactly were you doing this morning?” Belle asked, although she had her theories.

“Some stuff kids don’t need to see,” Lance said, and paused, searching for the right phrase, “like their parents having sex.”

“So, that’s what making love is?”

“Yep,” Lance said.

“I still don’t get it,” said Belle. “I used to think parents made babies if they shared the same bed, but that’s not right. I’ve laid in bed with you and nothing happened.”

“Don’t go there,” Lance said. [Read more…]

Filed Under: Books, Playdate Tagged With: Belle, Birds and bees, Daughter, Father, father-daughter bonding, father-daughter relationship, father-daughter talk, Lance, Mark Ruffalo, NY Times rave, Oprah Book Choice, Parade pick, Playdate, sex chat, tween

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